I have learned that we destroy ourselves subconsciously.
We make decisions that we think won’t harm us. Little by little these decisions become part of our lives, and we lose control of what we thought we had and become dependent on negative behaviors.
Just like an alcoholic becomes addicted slowly from “having fun with alcohol” or by trying to cover some emotional pain from the past, an eating disorder has the same pattern.
Usually an alcoholic begins drinking socially, thinking that he or she has control over the substance.
The usual pattern
After feeling the pleasing feeling that alcohol may deliver, the social drinker begins to have drinks at home to relieve some stress.
Now the stress-reliever drinker not only drinks socially but also alone until he does not notice that he has become a heavy drinker by having more than 5 drinks a day every day.
This is the usual pattern. However, the line between drinking levels is so thin that the drinker never noticed when he or she entered the other level of drinking.
Many eating disorders come from old emotional and mental traumas
I have read different testimonials and met a good number of women who have been emotionally, physically or sexually abused who have had eating disorders. They become either eating bingers, anorexic or bulimic.
They usually feel that they are running from someone or something.
They are stressed most of the time, and they cover their discomfort by overeating. Many never feel happy with their body because of the emotional or mental trauma, and they try to deal with that by attempting to achieve a body appearance that in reality does not exist. They think that the problem is their body instead of their traumas.
Multiple factors play a part
However, not all women who have been mentally, emotionally, physically or sexually abused have mental or addiction problems.
What I have found that is that many times to develop a disorder different factors need to fall into place, such as bad information from the media, dieting, family social support deficits, low self-esteem, maladaptive coping, parental separation, solitary eating, reading teen fashion magazines, social pressure for thinness, social problems, social withdrawal and negative comments about eating or appearance.
Most people who experience an eating disorder begin with just one infrequent episode
Just like the alcoholic begins drinking socially, a bulimic may start by inducing vomiting after she binged on food by sticking her finger down her throat or using a laxative.
She may feel guilty and think that she won’t do it again.
However, after she found that vomiting helped by preventing weight increase, she may make a plan for the next time she binges on food. Now she has a tool that she can use and that will allow her to eat all she wants or at least be “socially normal” by eating in front of friends.
She will use the same vomiting method to keep her weight down.
The silent eating disorder
Without noticing, she is starting to create negative side effects to her body such as irregular heartbeat, complications in child birth and conceiving, tooth decay, suicidal thoughts, ruptured esophagus and damaged kidneys. Plus, if conceiving, she may experience maternal high blood pressure, gestational diabetes, stillbirth, premature birth, birth defects and miscarriage.
The bulimic becomes stoic and no longer believes the correct information about the negative effects of inducing vomiting.
If the bulimic continues, she may now practice other negative behaviors such as excessive exercise, now practicing anorexic behaviors.
Now she is immersed in finding ways to lose weight without paying attention to warnings, and here is where she is putting her life in danger. When she notices that there is no exit, because of her conclusions, she may opt for suicide.
All these changes and decisions happen subconsciously
The truth is that all this can be avoided by not being mentally, emotionally, physically and sexually abused. Unfortunately, there will be always someone with mental problems who will abuse another human being.
The next step could be to understand why people behave the way they do and help them instead of judging them. Listen to their problems and support them in their rehabilitation.
It is not easy for the person who has been abused to expose information since not many people understand the situation.
For an eating disorder to be controlled, I believe the person needs to admit there is a problem, find help, forgive, understand why it happened, understand that she is still valuable and understand that there is nothing wrong with her.
It happens because the other person also has a mental disorder. She needs to find support, put herself in the right frame of mind and find the right environment. And honestly, turning her life to a Superior Power will provide everything mentioned above and more.
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